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04-04-2019 12:03 AM
04-04-2019 12:03 AM
Aspie Relationship
Hi, So my wife has had an injury. In typical Aspie fashion, I researched and followed the script to help her through the Hospital experience. Now she is home, the recovery is painfully slow. She is frustrated. I am having to care for her significantly. Our roles have changed. Its been very difficult.
I am becoming very confused about her changed behaviour. Then I get it, a revelation! She is not performing to the script I expect of her. No wonder I am confused as I am dealing with change.
She is not identifiable anymore, a stranger to me. Yes my wife a stranger! But that's being an Aspie. I have to take a breath and realise I am learning a new script. Given the chance the new routines will become familiar. Rather than resist and get upset, I simply observe, think, adapt and act. I have done that all my life so I am very good at it. A master sleuth.
It's ok that the most stable part of my life, a family member is going through change. Scary yes, initially anyway, but when I think about it, not so confronting.
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04-04-2019 01:22 PM
04-04-2019 01:22 PM
Re: Aspie Relationship
Welcome @Yep
Your post was beautiful and had lots of tender heart. Who said Aspie's dont have feelings! Btw I identify as aspie but no formal diagnosis. Change is difficult but doable in chunks.
I hope the forum is helpful.
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14-04-2019 05:20 PM
14-04-2019 05:20 PM
Re: Aspie Relationship
It sounds like you have it figured out @Yep, it can be hard for everyone when the recovery doesn't fit the script, even the person who is recovering. How are things going now?