07-09-2019 08:20 PM
Hi, I’m blue and this is a bit of a long story I’ll try to summarise but if you do read it I appreciate your time.
I met this guy 2 years ago while he was visiting my city for a week. He then left for an overseas holiday for 2 years and was coming back so he started messaging me again in May this year. He came back in August and we met up again and had sex which was a mutual decision. He then left again for another holiday however this time he blocked me on social media without explanation. A few weeks later I find out he was in a relationship this whole time but he never told me. I message his girlfriend telling her he had slept with me merely a month ago and she said he told her he cheated and she told him to block me on everything (which is fair).
But now I’ve missed my period and I’ve taken a pregnancy test and it came back positive. It was protected sex however there were moments of contact when the condom came off. I messaged her again because I have no way of contacting him and she’s very upset however she does not want any part of this situation. I have no way of contacting him so I really don’t know what to do... I don’t want to be pregnant especially with his baby but I can’t afford an abortion let alone the expenses of having a baby. What do I do? I really am feeling helpless.
07-09-2019 09:33 PM
08-09-2019 02:05 AM
@blue068 Hi blue068 and welcome to the forum. I have had 2 abortions in my youth and they are nothing to be afraid of in my experience. I don't know how much they cost now but I would be heading down to your trusted gp asap (you dont want to leave this too late).
I wouuldnt be bothered about trying to get the other party to chip in as that is more time wasted and more stress for you. It wouldnt surprise me if abortion clinics help women who are in financial crises - something to enquire about.
Good luck and I hope it all goes well for you and yes the last study on bring up a child the cost is $300,000.00. You dont want to go down that route if you are having trouble affording a abortion imho.pea
08-09-2019 06:52 AM
Hi @blue068 definitely see your gp asap. There are people and services available to help you. Sending you hugs 🌻
08-09-2019 06:57 AM
08-09-2019 10:16 PM
@outlander thank you for your reply and the tips. I have an appointment with my gp tomorrow to discuss everything. Also thank you for the support it means a lot to me
08-09-2019 10:20 PM
@greenpea thanks so much for your reply. It is honestly not worth the stress trying to get in contact with him as now his girlfriend has blocked me too. It’s just baffling to me how someone can be so cold especially when I am pregnant with his child. But I have an appointment with my gp tomorrow to discuss an abortion. Thank you for sharing your story a bit also
08-09-2019 10:21 PM
@Molliex thank you so much I will be doing this tomorrow x
08-09-2019 10:26 PM
@CheerBear thank you for sharing your story it certainly helps reading someone has been through similar things. I don’t have any family but I’ve reached out to my friends and they’ve helped me decide an abortion is the best thing to do because of the situation. I keep things to myself a lot so it’s hard to reach out to them which is why I posted here. I have an appointment tomorrow with my gp to discuss everything. Thanks again x
08-09-2019 10:37 PM
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