05-04-2015 06:54 PM
I hope you all had a wonderful easter
I'm just feeling sad and alone tonight.
I never not had my children with me for a major holiday.
They are with their father today and his new little family.....less then 12months and he has a live in girl friend and her 5 children
then there is me.
i havent gotten out of bed today
not even a happy easter from my own family
05-04-2015 07:19 PM
That would have been really hard without the kids. I hope they are home and you are feeling less alone. Glad you have come here, you aren't alone here.
05-04-2015 07:22 PM
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05-04-2015 07:31 PM
I'm so sorry to hear how crappy your easter has been. Sounds like staying in bed was a great way to get through it. Bed can be very soothing on such a jagged day as your first holiday without the kids there.
I also relate. The first Xmas after our very acrimonious split, I spent Xmas Day alone. No call or text. I cried all day. I also spent a large part of the day blaming myself for creating this mess and dreading every Xmas, Easter and birthday to come, knowing for a fact that I would never get used to being alone on all of those important days.
Not long after that, my ex and I settled down and began to communicate. Now we do these events much better. So much in fact that last night he slept in my son's bed so we could all wake up together.
I know you said your ex has a new partner so this isn't likely to happpen but, is it possible that a better way of dealing with these sorts of holidays is on the horizon?
05-04-2015 07:37 PM
05-04-2015 07:43 PM
Something special doesnt have to cost money maybe you could have the table set up for colouring or make tents in the living room lol i have no idea how old your kids are.. if they are teenagers maybe not! But just having something in mind might give you something to ge ready or plan for tomorrow. My ex sees mine for supervised access and he's the same with spoling them. They get so many toys and games I can't possibly compete. And as i've not been working since january they are having to adjust to our having less money and not being able to do things we used to, which has been reaally hard to explain - understand the guilt too..!
Hope you get some sleep tongiht
05-04-2015 07:47 PM
I can understand the feeling you are going through, last christmas was my first one alone, and it was really difficult to stay motivated and to try and do some small things that i enjoy and to make me smile, so i put on some up beat music, and watched a few movies of stand up comics for a bit of a chuckle, it didn't change that i still felt a bit on the lurch but, it helped ease it a little.
Happy Easter Sara
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