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[BPDSurvivor]

@LostAngel , attachment style has a huge part to play in terms of relationships. I’m avoidant attachment - I avoid them altogether and couldn’t be bothered investing time and energy into relationships. I think that will change later. I know what I have to do to change it, but I really can’t be bothered at the moment. I’m too satisfied with life to want things to change.

I slept better last night which was good 💕

[TuxedoCat]

Hey there @LostAngel I just thought I would check in and see how you're doing today? I really do know that feeling when my brain is in overdrive while I'm trying to sleep. It's so tiring! Which mindfulness app do you use? I would like to try one! 

And I love learning more about attachment styles! And I imagine being so far away from each other, it's pretty understandable that you might be feeling a bit panicky. But I'm glad he is being supporting of you. It sounds like you've been able to ask for what you need?

And @BPDSurvivor and @BPDSurvivor I feel like I'm a little anxious attached at times too. I'm mostly secure with my current partner, but it took a long time, energy and therapy for me to become secure attached. I feel my attachment in adult relationships was learned through being in crappy relationships, and I was able to (mostly) learn to be more secure.

Have you got anything that helps with times of feeling anxious in relationships?

[BPDSurvivor]

Hi @LostAngel ,

 How are you? How’s your brother?

 Hope you are well.

[LostAngel]

thank you for asking @BPDSurvivor today was a stressfull day but for different reasons,i just wrote a seperate post about it

[LostAngel]

the mindfullness app I use is called slumber ,its really good as there is a variety of music and also almost bedtime story type meditations which I particularily find usefull ,its on google play