Hello

[heartathome]

Good morning 🌄 @REDLINEZ750 and anybody else who's awake this early. It looks like it's going to be a nice sunny day here, which is good. I need to go home today which I'm not looking forward to. I've been running away from a toxic person who wants to be my friend. I know I'll have to put my boundaries up, which isn't always easy! I have to do it for my own peace of mind. My mental health hub is closed all week so I'm not sure what I'm going to do to occupy my time. 🙃

[Shaz51]

hello @heartathome 

It is raining here lots 

was going food shopping but not now -- do it tomorrow 

on my second load of washing 

thinking it might be cuppa time 

been awake since 2am , crazy 

Ha ha @rav3n , now I know why I am a community guide 😂

morning @REDLINEZ750 , @Oaktree , @Appleblossom 

[heartathome]

Hello @Shaz51 it sounds like you've been very productive since 2 am. Do you normally have trouble sleeping? I'm going to a mental health hub today to hang out for awhile. My usual one is closed all week, getting ready to close permanently next month! I don't know what I'll do after that! 🙃

[Shaz51]

@heartathome , my husband has trouble sleeping so I easily wake up , I usually get up 3 times a night because of my kidney disease 

sorry to hear that one is to close permanently next month, what happened 

is there another hub around close to you xx

[Appleblossom]

@heartathome 

hey

Learning about putting up boundaries is a new skill for me. I have a lot of fear about it, not sure what my rights are, how to speak about it, fear of upsetting the other, fear of abandonment. It has been terrifying, but I am accepting it as a new project to deal with the feelings and not completely withdraw. Gradually this year, my panic and anxiety is ebbing more quickly than it being all or nothing.

 I am listening to an actress from Big bang theory, on HSP.

@REDLINEZ750  @Shaz51 

@rav3n @Oaktree 

[REDLINEZ750]

@heartathome 

i hope things arent as bad for you as back home as you feel will be, are you back now?

i have had people like that before its not easy situation and im no good at diplomacy so tor me trying to explain  ends up in people getting offended or upset & earlier in life would feel responsible or guilty

Now i learnt my boundaries are mine and i have a right to enforce them & they need to be respected  

explaining them not necessary, still hard to be stern cold if needed despite being told im good at it

happy to chat anytime & SANE might be helpful  hub to lean on over next week 

i just going through catchung up now first time on today

hope you  still managed to have good day

[REDLINEZ750]

Hi @Shaz51 sorry late reply i just got to laptop first time been a short day i slept later than norma;l haha

@Appleblossom yeah i never heard of boundries till my forties and that took time then even more to learn where mine are and still learning now.

i learned a big one as i mentioned to heartathome is i have the right to enforce them and no i doesnt need to be explained why its in place and if asked then clearly dtill not respecting respecting my right to enforce it therefore having no respect at all which is not how i ,make porridge.

after that a lines been crossed and no going back which is easier for me to do i spose coz it alaways takes place before any trust is given.

not easy i know the fear and panic you  experiance, mine  was around  confrontation and violence i grew up with which without realising led me to  aooear  confrontational & combatant myself creating the scene i was afraid of. im still learning isolations not the answer.

hope you both hadd great day!

[heartathome]

Hi @REDLINEZ750 @Appleblossom @Shaz51 @Oaktree @rav3n  @RebelliousAngel and any other's on here, that I've forgotten. @Sharky @moreupthandown. Sorry. It's been a big day! I'm too tired to chat tonight but I wanted to let you know that I'm okay. 🙃  You 'guys' rock!! 🙂

[Oaktree]

@heartathome 

Thanks so much for the tag. It's ok if you miss someone. No-one takes it personally.

I hope that you had an ok kind of day. See you tomorrow.

[Shaz51]

Hope you sleep well tonight 💗 @heartathome 

See you tomorrow