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01-02-2015 03:52 PM
01-02-2015 03:52 PM
Do I involve younger siblings, how much do you involve them?
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02-02-2015 02:22 PM
02-02-2015 02:22 PM
Re: Do I involve younger siblings, how much do you involve them?
Hi
I am a volunteer at Eating Disorders Victoria and thought I may be able to help a little. It sounds like you are going through a really tough time at the moment but it’s great that your daughter is seeing someone and wanting to get help. The challenge is always harder when there are siblings involved and it is really a personal choice as to whether to include them or not. Perhaps ask your daughter how she feels about this and if she is happy for them to be involved then speak to the other children to see how they feel. It’s hard to know how much to tell them at a young age and it is not necessary to go in to a lot of detail. It may help them to understand why there is a lot of attention on their sister and why the family dynamics have changed.
Having gone through a similar experience with my daughter I understand how stressful and challenging this situation can be. I found it helpful to share with close friends as it helped me to not feel as isolated. We have support groups for family and friends that you may like to consider as well. Sometimes you may feel more comfortable talking to an outsider also experiencing these feelings.
Link to support group information: www.eatingdisorders.org.au/find-a-support-group
Speaking to the school counsellor is a great idea as they may also suggest that her friends come to see her as well with her permission. My daughter came to an agreement with her friends about sitting with her for support at lunchtime and this helped a great deal. Regarding breakfast, maybe this would be a great time to include the siblings and encourage them all to sit together to eat if you are going to be at work. Just like the agreement my daughter made at school, this could be the agreement you make at home.
We have psychologists here at EDV who can provide guidance and support for parents/families so this may be something to think about.
You may also be interested in visiting the link below; it is an online community of parents of eating disorder patients around the world. ADTD is a moderated 24/7 forum and has connected and supported parents since 2004.
http://www.aroundthedinnertable.org
The book: Skills based learning for caring for a loved one with an eating disorder - by Author Janet Treasure et al, is also a great book to read if you are interested.
Hope this has helped a bit and please feel free to call our helpline on 1300 550236 if there is anything else you would like to talk about.
All the best,
Hepline Team member (Eating Disorders Victoria)
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15-02-2015 07:03 PM
15-02-2015 07:03 PM
Re: Do I involve younger siblings, how much do you involve them?
I just wanted to check in and see how things are travelling for you.
I hope you found the information from @EDV helpful.
Hope to hear from you soon!
Nik