Deja vu

[BPDBiPolarMumof]

So I feel like my life is deja vu except my child is living what I did and I'm now going through what my parents did

I'm so sad because I don't think my adult child is at the right place for help but they are living through a tough time right now and there's nothing I can do 

How do I help them without impacting my on stability that I've only just gotten recently I was rock bottom only months ago and now I'm trying to be a strong person for them but I only have so much to give without taking away what I need for myself

I just want to cry

[NatureLover]

Hi and welcome, @BPDBiPolarMumof , it's good you've joined. I'm sorry to hear of your and your adult child's situation. 

Well done for getting your life and wellbeing stable recently 👍

Can you explain to your adult child what you said above, that you only have so much to give and you'll give what you can? 

Something else that helps me is the strategy of having more than one source of help, so if your chosen source of help can't help for their own reasons, you can turn to another. Could you maybe say that to your adult child? 

I would also recommend professional support for both of you, but you say your adult child is not there yet...

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