I have diagnosed OCD and over the years my wife has talked of her own paranoia through past trauma and events ect. I’m trying to help her by explaining by my compulsions and how when they go unchecked I “alleviate” them by fulfilling the urge by touching items a certain amount of times and so on. I know I shouldn’t give in to my counting ect but until I get therapy properly it just is what it is and it’s harmless in the sense that it there and then done. But my wife has compulsive thoughts that she can’t help but obsessive over and it’s always about thoughts of too much hugging or too much affection for my younger sister even when I’ve explained about me setting boundaries that are healthy or explaining that maybe these are just internal thoughts that she needs help with process with a mental health professional. My younger sister also went through a sexual assault with a relative that was older so this is a major fear for her, her younger sister had also experienced a situation but not as similar. This and break ins specifically even though are worst obsessive thoughts. I’m assuming because she’s been close to it like I have so she has thoughts that if someone close to us can do that then anyone can. I’ve tried to explain that it’s traumatised me too but I don’t want to say things that may further encourage her obsessive thoughts or just make the situation worse in general. I want to help her but don’t know how to and everyone I’ve tried to set healthy boundaries or talk her through it, it just makes it worse because she says things like that’s what someone who is hiding something etc would say or anything to further confirm her suspicions. I don’t know what to say or how to help but it gets me upset or worsens my own ocd so any help would be appreciated
