That's alright @JustWhelmed, that's why we're all here — “a problem shared is a problem halved”.
That's great that you spend time in your garden, it can be such a peaceful place to be when it's just us and nature. Great way to unintentionally practice mindfulness. And that's lovely that your partner knows how much it means to you.
That's good you have a cleaner coming to help you out a bit. And wonderful that you're both seeing a counsellor — I think that's a really good idea to work on letting things go, as hard as it is it's so much better for us in the long run.
I'm sorry that you had a big argument, and I'm sorry about the gaslighting, it can be difficult to be on the receiving end of that type of behaviour… especially from those we love.
I think if having a handyman to come and help will make life a bit easier, then that's a positive thing for all of you.
Hopefully, with a bit more time to settle into their new work role, things won't be so tense moving forward.
As a carer I understand just how difficult it is to take a step back in order to have a break, but if that will help you then perhaps that can be a goal of yours?
I really do hope that things start to improve for you all. Hope to hear from you again soon.
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