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[Strwberriez7]

Hello Everyone 

I'm new here 🙌 

I'm here because I'm suffering from my mental health - I'm suffering from depression, anxiety, anger, grief and it's affecting my marriage. 

My husband and I have been together for over 3yrs, but were friends for 11yrs before being a couple.. as a friend he was so good to me but now were more he doesn't know what it feels like to be me and even when I try to explain things to him he says he doesn't care and doesn't have to care, which results to me being upset and angry, I hate feeling alone and I even hate being mad. I just want to be happy together but I feel like he punishes me when it's not going his way...there's more issues but that's all I have to energy to share right now.

[hanami]

Hi @Strwberriez7 

Welcome! 

I'm sorry to hear things aren't going great for you in your relationship. It sounds like you had such a good foundation for committed relationship but your partner has changed in the way he doesn't seem caring and supportive. He says he shouldn't have to care and I find that quite sad and hurtful for you. You're meant to his number one person so he really should care about how you're feeling. Is he open to counselling together?  Perhaps if an outside person questioned him about this it may make him see things differently?

Sending hugs

Hanami

[Strwberriez7]

Thank you so much for your kind words, I'm feeling so lonely right now. I don't want to eat anything. I've just been drinking lots more. I really don't need the stress from all that's happening - I am battling with breast cancer also and my husband has been up and down with that too. I think he's just stressed out financially if im honest because he's the only one working and he has to provide for my five children that aren't even his but it's something he took on when he decided to marry me. Last year my dad passed away and three months before my younger brother passed away at the age of 28y.o..this year my ex husband passed away unexpectedly 😢 so it's been tough and I know I haven't been the easiest to be married to but some love and understanding would go along way...when my husbands mum passed away in 2020 I was there for him fully and when I tell him that he's like well I wouldn't have cared if you were or not. Aaaaaaarrrrrrrggggghhh 

[hanami]

Oh no @Strwberriez7 , that's a lot to be going through. And understandable you would be frustrated when you have been so supportive of your husband but he has not returned that - and then says he doesn't care! Gosh that would be frustrating! 

You say you haven't been easy to be married to, but you sound like a loving and supportive person. I can understand you might think financial stress is playing a part in how your husband's feeling.

xxx

[Strwberriez7]

Thank you so much, I appreciate that so much. I have many issues with things in my life - I suffer from depression, anxiety, I over think, I was in a domestic violence relationship before my husband and so I think I haven't healed from that because I'm often triggered. I'm told I have anger issues that I don't know how to communicate properly. My husband says I've damaged him 💔 like there's a whole lot going on

[tyme]

Hey @Strwberriez7 ,

Good to meet you. Welcome to the forums. Thank you for sharing a bit about yourself. I hope you find connection and belonging on the forums here.

There are people from all walks of life here.

Glad to have you!

[Strwberriez7]

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Thank you for your message. I appreciate it so much 😀

[nervouswreck]

@Strwberriez7  Welcome, and that’s a tough situation!  You both have a LOT going on.  It’s a shame your husband is being uncaring, I hope things improve for you.