@Oaktree wrote:
Hi Chibam,
I wanted you to know that I hear you regarding the word resilience. It can be a very loaded word. I feel like I have built my strength up in regards to my mental health and now I weather the storms better.
Meggle
If I'm being honest, I have a lot of resentment against that word/concept, @Oaktree . I try to maintain a more open-minded/balanced approach towards it in conversations, but I feel like I've been a victim of the application of that concept, at it's worst.
All through my therapy, there was a push towards "resiliance" (even though it wasn't called that at the time) - to badgering me in to being a better punching bag; better at enduring the toxic/hostile/insufferable situations I was embroiled in, when what I really needed was help to get out of them.
Then when I got to the point where suicide was my only way out, the therapist badgered me into abstaining from suicide, fully aware that my awful quality of life was not remedied, nor would it ever be remedied. So here I am; 10 years laterm still trapped in hell on earth. "Resiliantly" enduring it all without fuss, while I wait for the reaper to come collect me in his own good time. I'm screwed; but hey, I'm not dead, so she's happy. That's all that matters, right?
Resiliance has ruined my life. The "weak" ones, the ones who don't "hang in there" when the game is lost, are way better off then me.
That's why I hate resiliance being pushed as some sort of solution to people's suffering. I know it's cruelty, firsthand. It's less a solution for the sufferer, and more a solution for the people who haven't exhausted their usefulness, yet.
