08-11-2019 10:44 PM
I'm going through a really hard time where I just don't want to be around anyone, but I'm lonely. I'm trying to date but seem to be put off everyone I meet and just have no drive to be around them. How do I get out of this anti social behaviour?
09-11-2019 07:00 AM
@Flower88 Hi Flower88 I am not really the right person to speak to as I dont want any man near me and am quite anti social and like it that way.However, haver you tried walking groups etc. groups where you can be out for a couple of hours have a gentle chit chat and then come home again in the peace and sanctity of your own space without getting over whelmed.
I have been thinking of doing that. I see them on my walks and there appears to be the ones that chat non stop whilst others who just go along for the walk. Nice way to meet a varity of people without a heavy date on a dating service imho. There are other courses through the community services which you can do like learning a language or art etc. peaxx
11-11-2019 04:51 PM
Your post spoke to me! I feel the same way. Because of my aversion to people I've isolated myself away, and now I'm feeling lonely. Sometimes I reach out to friends to hang out but I invariably become very self conscious. Then I worry they are judging me, thinking I'm anti-social, which I am! It's a cycle!
I've found the best way to combat this is to reach out to a friend who is non-judgemental. I have a mate like this and he honestly doesn't care if I sit there like a lump, or if I am in one of my up moods, or if I'm practicing being positive and don't always say the right thing. Because he can be a bit much I tend to keep these visits short, but it helps me to feel connected.
an hour ago
@Flower88 . I'm currently in a similar situation. Except for the dating part.
After about 2 years, my depression has finally gone. During that time though, I isolated myself, and only have 1 friend I see or hear from. I'm lonely. But struggle to join in groups or volunteer organisations.
Today, I just dropped off my form to join WellWays, a group that supports those with physical and mental illness to join in and have a full life.
Now obviously I haven't started yet, so I can't tell you if they are good or not. But I hope they are good.
Could you find an organisation like this near your area? It might just give you a head start. And help stop the loneliness.
Just a suggestion. I wish you well.
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