NEED HELP WITH RAGE!

[Change123]

@Shaz51@PeppiPatty

Sometimes you just have to laugh - sharing this stupidy for others to laugh at.

Need to get someone to look at the photocopier because only for the male owner it jams through the document feeder.  We have had the guy out 5 times and now the owner said "the problem is when I put my originals nice and straight in the document feeder it works well and doesnt jam but if one sheet is crooked it feeds it in crooked and jams - I should be able to put the paper in slightly crooked and it not jam get them out to have another look"!  ha ha ha ha so now we need a special photocopier to suit them so they dont have to put the paper in straight like the rest of the world............................................

I think I am being tested !  I have the biggest smile on my face from this its like REALLY!!!!! 

Have a good day

[Neb]

Hey Change 123......why put up with this.....it is killing you inside. Seriously, start making an exit plan....you deserve better. I dont know what your occupation is but.....start shopping for a new space, work out what it is you want .....belting the auld fool with a handbag will get you a ton of grief. The auld fool, may just like pressing your buttons too.

[PeppiPatty]

@Neb....how are you? Good to see you, I've missed you From PettiPatty formally justanother47yr

PettiPatty 

[Change123]

Hi @Neb

I am looking for another job but I'm not in the centre of town or suburbia so I'm keeping my eyes open constantly but at the moment not much around.  I cant just leave without another job to go to for 2 reasons : 1 - finances and 2 Over the years I have noticed that I'm healthier mentally if I'm working even if that means in this place until I find something.

I am coping much better theses days but sometimes just need to vent at the stupidity of it all.

Thanks

[Neb]

heypeppiPatty.....why was the old tag "justanother?" There is no other sentient soul in the universe JUST LIKE YOU! Seriously, a big hello too!

[Change123]

Hi @Shaz51@Appleblossom@PeppiPatty

Hoping someone can help with suggestions - keeping my cool just!!!

The mail business owner just wanted me to type something and I said can it wait trying to get some pay stuff done as its pay week.  So then he basically asks me to justify why because he doesnt believe it as his wife done it much quicker BUT THEN SHE SAYS I NEVER DONE IT ON THE SYSTEM.  I explained and then I thought hang on my pays are always error free why should I justify.  So when he was in with his wife I took the opportunity (what a mistake) they both ganged up on me and she said "dont want to talk about it now" he continued so I did too.  She then said "well now that its brought up this is something that I was going to bring up inyour appraisal you spend too much time doing pays" so thats a bad thing to get them right??  I then said ok I wont talk about it anymore and stormed off.

Performance appraisial you are not meant to bring up negatives unless they have been discussed, she hasnt.  I know now what I will cop in my review, I'm half thinking what the point to argue with them just accept it and move on or do I say something..???

[PeppiPatty]

Hi @Neb

My name was justanother47yr because I thought that this forum would last about 6 months and then....kaput. Was I wrong. I'm 49 now and going to the big 50 this year. My three brothers are arguing who is going to pay for me to go to MElbourne and Sydney for my Birthday this year. Ahhh.....which one shall I choose ?

Good to see you @Neb....

Seriously....how are you and didnt you have lap bad stuff ? My lap band is going fine. I havent had it seen to for a bit over a year now.....I should go and have it looked at.

PeppiPatty 

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @Change123 

I apologise that I wrote a note to @Neb...but was thinking about you at the same time !!!

@Change123 I think that it's time for you to say something. The boss and his wife are being very nitty gritty to you. 

My thought is : saying this as an example: 

For 2 months, I have sought outside help on how to manage my work ethics around you. 

If you have a problems with me, can you please write them in a formal letter because it would help me understand your work attitude  to me. As I do not take your work dealig personally, it would greatly assist me in the future. 

I know, that doesnt sound right, but can you just, brush that up or something? 

Also, can I be very sensetive here? Have you Borderline Personality Disorder? If you do, you are doing a wonderful job @Change123. 

Ps. the outside help is coming here, they dont need to know where you get outside help from.....

PP

[Change123]

@PeppiPatty

Yes I do have BPD and its ok, hence my thread on emotional disciplines - another perspective on BPD.

Yes when I get my review I will be asking for something tangeable.

Wish me luck in one of those meetings now, boss is very nice now but that could be the lull before the storm.

So over them though, really over them and more angry at me for letting them get to me.

Thanks

[Change123]

@PeppiPatty@Shaz51

Well I dont know if took the adult road but I tried. We had our morning meeting and he was nice he made comments and looked at me but didnt say or let others know he was talking about me when he said "by the way I am the owner and if I feel someone needs to explain about their job I have the right to do so" !  So after the meeting I asked him if I could have a quick word and said "I'm sorry for getting angry yesterday but I take a lot of pride in my work and probably care too much.  I have done nothing dfferent in pays since I have been here, I have kept the same schedule and you have mentioned this a couple of times to me the concerns withpayroll.  When you put your heart and soul into something and someone just ripps it up it hurts especially when I have tried so hard to do the right thing"!  He then smiled and said he was happy that I care about the place and put so much into it - but its probably in one ear and out the other!

Atleast I got to say how I feel in calm, adult fashion - now I just have to cop the wrath of the wife when she comes in!