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01-08-2016 09:53 AM
01-08-2016 09:53 AM
17 yo daughter refuses help
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01-08-2016 04:11 PM
01-08-2016 04:11 PM
Re: 17 yo daughter refuses help
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01-08-2016 07:36 PM
01-08-2016 07:36 PM
Re: 17 yo daughter refuses help
unfortunately this is an all to common cry from many family members.
Now might be your time to act given the episode this morning. It could be that you take her to the GP, explaining that you are concerned for her and would like for her to be 'checked out' by the dr.?
Alternatively do you think she might respond to telephone support like the kids help line, they also have online support, this maybe more her style? I noticed they had a section for parents which may also provide you with some extra support/resources, and for your other children too.
1800 55 1800
What about her school, are they expressing any concerns regarding her behaviour, or do you think she may respond to a particular teacher there?
And importantly, have you got someone to have a cuppa with that can provide a listening ear?
let us know how you get on
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03-08-2016 08:47 PM
03-08-2016 08:47 PM
Re: 17 yo daughter refuses help
I'm so glad you reached out to this community and sorry to hear what your family is going through.
It's really hard when teenagers, purely due to their age and lack of experience, can't see the possibilities to get better. It's really important for parents to continue to send the message: things can get better.
There's a great site for parents of teenagers called ReachOut, which aims to help parents support their teenagers. You can find them here
There are some great factsheets about communication, getting help for teens and suicide. There's even an online community, like this one.
I hope these referrals are of use.
Take care
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25-11-2016 08:59 AM
25-11-2016 08:59 AM
Re: 17 yo daughter refuses help
Hi Karma
Three months have passed and I have wonderful news. My daughter did go to the GP, although it took a huge amount of courage for her to do so. She started anti-depressants and initially had such strong side effects that I thought she might stop taking them. But she perservered and is now out of that deep dark hole she was in. She took a break from her studies and has spent the past 3 months 'chilling' at home. I thought this was important to give her a chance to slowly re-engage with life. She is very different to be around now. Pleasant, funny and caring. She couldn't believe how different the world looked once the cloud lifted and after 3 months she has announced she is ready to re-commit to her studies and pursue her dreams. She wants to volunteer with a homeless organisation and help others as part of her own self-therapy. So if you are struggling or your child is in that world of pain, be strong and patient, and know that what they are expressing is not who they are. Be the positive voice that penetrates the darkness, tell them this will pass, and do not turn your back on them however tempting that may be... It's just a matter of them accessing the help and medications that are available, and sometimes there will be a bit of trial and error and bumps along the way. Good luck x
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25-11-2016 08:53 PM
25-11-2016 08:53 PM
Re: 17 yo daughter refuses help
Hello @helephant1969
Ohhh that is wonderful news xx
You are soo Awesome @helephant1969 and I am so proud of your daughter xx