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24-07-2016 04:48 PM
24-07-2016 04:48 PM
Fighting the enemy within while trying not to let it show
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24-07-2016 10:14 PM - edited 25-07-2016 06:28 PM
24-07-2016 10:14 PM - edited 25-07-2016 06:28 PM
Re: Fighting the enemy within while trying not to let it show
Hi @Mace
I'm just reading your post now. I think you need some extra support and to be able to talk to someone. I can relate to how you feel and your worries for the future.
Btw I don't see that you are insane by being forgetful or ditzy it really shows that you have a serious health problem and perhaps you need a break.
I was able to get help in a private clinic that specializes in group therapy and I had a complete break for 5 weeks and this did me wonders and slowly rebuilding my life and I think I will get there and so will you.
I think you need to take the pressure off yourself and realize you can't do everything and plus think about what you need atm and I think your health should be your 1st priority.
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24-07-2016 11:15 PM
24-07-2016 11:15 PM
Re: Fighting the enemy within while trying not to let it show
Despite it all @Mace you have a position as project manager and dont want to give up.
I felt quite lonely at uni ... I made one friend helping her do her maths ... and she drove me around in her porsche ... it wasnt quite the type of friendhip I had hoped for .. I wanted more discussion about social issues ... but I felt overwhelmed by all the noise in the cafe ... and in end it was just a very few people .. I visited one in his lab at chemistry and one in her office at the subdeans ... my study was part-time .. so I was rushing off to work or family obligations ...
Thank God there are a few books coming out in praise of ... introverts!
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25-07-2016 05:20 AM
25-07-2016 05:20 AM
Re: Fighting the enemy within while trying not to let it show
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25-07-2016 05:59 AM
25-07-2016 05:59 AM
Re: Fighting the enemy within while trying not to let it show
Posting on the forum can be very helpful when you are time poor. You can read or post just as you wish.
In many way men have it tough and so often raised to repress thier feelings. So it is a good idea to write about intrusive thoughts, memories, or just day to day stuff.
regards Apple
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25-07-2016 04:20 PM - edited 25-07-2016 04:52 PM
25-07-2016 04:20 PM - edited 25-07-2016 04:52 PM
Re: Fighting the enemy within while trying not to let it show
Hi @Mace
Under the circumstances you are doing remarkably well. You are a true soldier to push through regardless how you are feeling and this is a good thing. Yes, never give up. But that doesn't mean you feel good right now and understandably so!! You are not insane having a good insight into your symptoms, ills, the causes and reality. The forgetfulness is anxiety/stress as your mind dwells on the traumas. It's most likely due to trauma. Quite a normal reaction.
My husband is a Vietnam Vet and we have both suffered PTSD. He had anger issues for awhile that we have both worked on and he has improved immensely. He also contracted cancer and other health issues from being doused with DDT and the like. He lost a lot of close friends in that war. But he is happier now and leading a productive life even though he still suffers physically and is restricted in what he can do. But what he does do he makes a great difference. It can get better.
Do you talk to a therapist or other trusted people about what you have gone through? (I know this can be difficult). Are you part of a face to face support group or is that too confronting for you? There can be some associated perceived guilt with such experiences that you have gone through that can cause untold distress for some veterans/ex-defence, some things we were never meant to see, experience or be placed in a position to be forced to do; - talk to someone if you can, even if just a little of what you have been through. Get it off your chest, let yourself grieve, cry and then let it go for good by looking forward, never back. And life will start again. Keep posting here if you are comfortable to do so - feel free to fully express yourself whenever you need to. It will help. You will eventually find your peace. Time is the great healer. We are here for you.
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25-07-2016 10:05 PM
25-07-2016 10:05 PM
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25-07-2016 10:34 PM
25-07-2016 10:34 PM
Re: Fighting the enemy within while trying not to let it show
I beg you to give it a go with an open mind and expectation of success. You might surprise yourself.
Hoping you will find many hours of satisfying and enjoyable music making in the near future. The pure magic of music can never be underestimated.
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25-07-2016 11:52 PM - edited 26-07-2016 02:08 PM
25-07-2016 11:52 PM - edited 26-07-2016 02:08 PM
Re: Fighting the enemy within while trying not to let it show
Hi @Mace
I was just talking to my husband about you - I hope you don't mind. He said to tell you that no, you will never be the same again but you will learn to cope over time, and you will learn to live again - and will move on. In time - in your time. You will play that guitar again eventually - guaranteed, bit by bit you will start to feel enjoyment doing those creative activities you love - all in time. Keep that vision firm in your mind and look forward to it. You do have a better future in front of you.
In my own personal experience we are not the same once we have been traumatised. But we do reinvent ourselves and can be even stronger, more compassionate for it in the long run. So yes, our lives were robbed of us for awhile and nothing comes as natural and carefree anymore - but it's not the end of it. It just changes and life, although will throw out some curveballs - can still be full, loving and productive. You have the will - you will find a way to some peace. Hold onto hope.
Do you have a chance, the time, to smell the roses and work on yourself for a bit? I do think having a job to occupy your mind is a good thing (distraction helps anxiety/depression) - and that feeling of accomplishment is healing. But making some you time on the weekends or after work is important too.
Know that you have friends here @Mace that you can talk to about anything you need to express. It helps to get it out there and off your chest. We are here for you
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26-07-2016 09:24 PM
26-07-2016 09:24 PM
Re: Fighting the enemy within while trying not to let it show
Hi Mace
I hear ya brother I am ex ADF also mate, where abouts are you located? Just want to see if there is an ex-adf support group around for you to get in touch with thats all mate.
Hope to hear from you soon brother.