01-10-2017 11:04 PM
01-10-2017 11:04 PM
01-10-2017 11:20 PM
01-10-2017 11:20 PM
That sounds cool @Pepsimax. Very creative 🙂
I think I might try to go to sleep soon. I hope you can quiet those thoughts a bit.
02-10-2017 09:35 PM
02-10-2017 09:35 PM
I know I need some help but I don't know what or how.
02-10-2017 10:06 PM
02-10-2017 10:06 PM
02-10-2017 11:18 PM
02-10-2017 11:18 PM
Hi @CheerBear, thanks for your message and for the suggestion.
I tried the online helpline chat thing here for the first time tonight. I lasted all of 1 message before deciding it was a terrible idea and saying goodbye.
I'm not ready to try the phone number. Phone calls are really hard for me and things have to be pretty bad before I try that. Plus I'd definitely need a much better idea of what to expect (e.g. expect the line to be busy, that there'll be an answering machine / recorded message first, what sort of opening thing they'll start with etc.). The slightest bit of 'weird' or unexpected wording can make it impossible for me to say something and can just emphasise how terrible of an idea it is.
I feel like it's not "bad enough" for any sort of help. I have previously felt worse, but even that didn't feel like enough of a reason and felt like a complete idiot trying to get help then. I can't even imagine what sort of idiot I'd feel like now. What's ten steps up from "complete idiot"? A couple of years ago I spoke to my GP about things then had one session with a psychologist (who I had already decided wouldn't be a good fit), and could not shake the thought of how bad of an idea it seemed and how much it was not something I needed to be doing. (Strong but need vs weak and want, being a primary issue... if that makes sense.) About ten years ago I did a few sessions with 2 different psychologists - the first being unhelpful and the second being ok but unreliable/too-busy - and I could barely get words out to talk to either of them. Although I think I'd do better this time around, that's far from being a sure thing.
I can't go into it not knowing what I want, or knowing if the person/service I'm contacting can help with what I want.
And I'm just going to quickly hit post and head to bed before second (third, forth) guessing this whole post.
03-10-2017 05:42 AM
03-10-2017 05:42 AM
Good morning @TheVorticon. I'm glad that you didn't fourth guess hitting send last night. I hope it was ok enough for you to hit post too.
03-10-2017 10:19 PM
03-10-2017 10:19 PM
Thanks @CheerBear. Well done on making such great plans for today and getting through it btw.
That’s really helpful info. Thanks heaps for sharing all that information about what your experiences have been like when calling. I dunno if I’ll try it, but that’s given me a way better idea of what to expect if I do.
There’s way too much going on in “Forum Land” at the moment to make this a big post or to drop in on other threads, but if anyone else is reading, well done on getting through your tricky day too.
04-10-2017 01:31 PM
04-10-2017 01:31 PM
Hi @TheVorticon,
I am allowing myself 30 minutes in Forum Land as a reward for crossing three things off my to-do list and I decided to spend that time here. I need to work super hard to balance my online and offline time and thus I never get as far around Forum Land as I would like to.
CheerBear seems to have done a super job of describing what it is like calling the SANE helpline. I have called...um...well...let's just say more than three times.
I call during the day and I've almost always got either Lunar, Pebbles or Rockpool answering the phone. Occassionally I will get someone who doesn't live in Forum Land - though I am working on getting her to come and live here.
There have been quite a few times where I've been struggling with super gigantic feelings and I've called while I can't find my words. They are SO good at just staying on the line while I go through my whole making-weird-noises thing. Whereas lifeline hang up on me, the guys at SANE just wait. And because they do that, my words come back after a few minutes.
If they are super busy, then as CheerBear said, you might get the answering machine. If that feels scary, you can just hang up and try again later. I THINK the calls are diverted to an outsourced answering service (answered by real live people) when the helpcentre is closed or maybe during lunch time. I'm not too sure about that. It's only happened to me once or twice and like CheerBear, I politely declined the offer to leave a message.
There is definitely no pressure to identify yourself at all. I feel super safe with the counsellors at SANE so I am very comfortable with them knowing who I am (both my real name and my Forum Land name). I love the continuity of them knowing my story because they live here in Forum Land - sooooooo much better than trying to explain anything to a lifeline counsellor.
Ok, well I don't think I've added anything more than CheerBear already said. I'm just letting you know she wasn't lying.
I hope today is going ok for you @TheVorticon. Are you still skateboarding??? If so, how is it going???
See you around Forum Land.
04-10-2017 09:30 PM
04-10-2017 09:30 PM
Hi @Phoenix_Rising. Thanks for spending your 30 mins over here 🙂 And for corroborating CheerBear's account of what it's like to call the SANE helpline 😉
A live-people-answering-machine sounds kind of scary to me. I'm glad it hasn't been a very frequent occurrence for either of you.
I haven't actually had much interaction with the mods, except for an email each time I've broken the guidelines or the occasional post on Friday Feast. So I'm not sure if any given mod would know anything about what I've written on here.
I'm still very unsure about the whole idea of calling and am not very sure about how they can help, but I guess that's future-me's problem.
Skateboarding nope, things have just been too busy/stressful and I haven't been back out in weeks. I was having so much trouble with the rough surface on the footpath/road that I bought some softer wheels which arrived almost 2 weeks ago, but I haven't put them on the board yet. I actually wanted to put them on my other board (which I'd been repainting over the last couple of months... It's not complicated, I just have very sporadic motivation). The board is almost finished although I should probably do an extra couple of clear coats. But then I realised that all the other parts for that board are all rusty and yuck. And I don't really want to juxtapose my nice new paint job and nice new wheels with the yuck rusted parts. So that's where I'm at with that.
10-10-2017 01:29 PM
10-10-2017 01:29 PM
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