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Hi @TheVorticon - wondering how you got on with your work thing today? Hoping you got through it ok.

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Unfortunately it's one of those things that take multiple days to complete @CheerBear. So I temporarily found a way to unstick one part of the thing, but am still stuck in other ways. I've already spent a week on it and it's really got nowhere. 😞

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Oh that sucks that you have to stick with trying to work through possibly feeling stuck for longer 😞 I was hoping it would be a thing that could be resolved sooner than that for you.

Sorry to hear TheVorticon

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Good evening @TheVorticon. I did something today that feels to me like it would be so simple and easy to, well, most adult people, but hasn't been for me at all. I thought about sharing it in the HOYD thread, but it maybe wouldn't make sense. I think you might struggle sometimes to do things that it feels like every one can do without much of an issue (even though they maybe can't), so I wanted to share it with you. I hope you don't mind (and I also totally don't expect a reply).

I filled a jerry can today. That's it. I have had a 'thing' about it forever and through some magic, have avoided having to do it myself. Considering how few people there are 'here' to help with this stuff, I don't even know how I managed to get away with it for as long as I have. I was that freaked out by it that I asked someone (who is so lovely) at Bunnings how to actually do it, because the fear of it was worse than my fear of asking such a ridiculous question.

It's one of those things that makes no sense at all to me. But yeah, that's one of my things.

I hope today has been ok for you TheVorticon 🙂

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Well done for filling the jerry can today @CheerBear! 😄 That's awesome and I'm very impressed that you overcame the fear of doing it and asked for tips at Bunnings. Here's some chocolate spiders as a congratulations and well-done treat 🙂

chocolatespiders

You're right that I do sometimes struggle with doing things that it seems like other people do all the time. If you want a laugh, the one I now laugh the most about is that I once had a thing about ordering pizza for picking up, because I was worried about the aerodynamics of the box when carried along a busy road! Smiley LOL I can now safely say that the wind vortex behind a car or van moving at 60km/h will not typically cause any significant gust to a pedestrian's pizza box. Smiley LOL

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@TheVorticon - those chocolate spiders were delicious (I'm having some right again now) thank you. They're the only type of spiders I like 😄

I did get a bit of a laugh with you at the pizza box thing in the way I completely relate to how much of a thing things like that can be. It is very good to know that pizza boxes are safe on busy roads 😛

Thank you for listening and for sharing TheVorticon 🙂

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Hi @TheVorticon and @CheerBear @Phoenix_Rising @Pepsimax @Former-Member 

I'm so glad you started this thread because I can totally relate. You are not weird, perhaps just like me you often wonder why some people-in my case, at work-spend all day talking, about things that don't seem to be important ie: how many "friends" they might have on social media, what they posted on social media, what someone's opinion (usually a celebrity) is on social media, stuff that makes me wonder if they too are insecure??  Sometimes it seems like they talk for the sake of talking, like silence scares them. But then again, I just don't do people well. Despite being closer to 60 than 50 Smiley Happy I just don't get adult behaviour. There are times I don't want to talk because I've got nothing to say, or I want to be left alone.  I don't understand how some people can have a deep and meaningful conversation with someone they've just met.  I totally freak out when someone I don't know or someone's voice scares me on the counselling service I use. Just lately that happens all the time! I keep phoning but it's a hit and miss thing. 

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Today I tried to figure out how to help myself get back into participating in life, doing enjoyable things etc. I exhausted myself just reading/listening to the way I'm supposed to help myself. It feels hopeless. I don't believe I can do it. 

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I'm still feeling kinda sad and hopeless after last night and still being stuck for progress on the work task today.

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😞 @TheVorticon 

How much longer of the work task do you think you will have left until you are through it? Or is this a really don't know about that kind of thing?