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27-01-2018 08:01 PM
27-01-2018 08:01 PM
Where to turn?
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27-01-2018 09:32 PM
27-01-2018 09:32 PM
Re: Where to turn?
Do you have a psychologist that you see? If not, I'd highly recommend getting one. Your gp can refer you.
I have found that my psychologist is a huge help in sorting out my feelings and helping me to try and live a good life.
You have been through a lot of trauma when you were young, and that is hard.
Talking it over with a therapist should help. And keep writing here. Others on the forum will understand exactly what you have been through.
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28-01-2018 12:04 PM
28-01-2018 12:04 PM
Re: Where to turn?
No I have never seen anyone about anything I suppose because ofor the stigma in my small town. We as a town have a high rate of suicide and therefore people talk and as you may very well know that talk is never good. Unfortunately I was talking to a friend only 2 weeks ago and her opinion about people with mental illness was not a good thing to listen to and most of the people I know share the same view. That in itself makes it hard. I feel like there is no way out but there is only one way to end it all. I have held a job for the last 18 years and I have a home loan and kids and a relationship of which I feel stuck but in getting help I'm afraid of loosing it all. I'm crying almost every day now with no end in sight. I've always been told that people that take their own life are selfish and gutless but I don't see it that way. I feel like people that do this are the strongest people around and have no options available and therefore forfeit. Even my doctor told my wife I need to eat some concrete and harden up so the (what I thought) was the first step is ruled out indefinitely. Every day is a struggle not just for me but my family to. Thanks for your suggestion and for listening as its the first time I have ever opened up and it actually feels good to write all this down.
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28-01-2018 12:31 PM
28-01-2018 12:31 PM
Re: Where to turn?
Hi @Chuky
Welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story.
I undertsand trying to get help in a small community is daunting in regards to privacy.
I have linked some websites that offer anonyomous telehpone counselling.
https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/national-help-lines-and-websites
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28-01-2018 01:03 PM
28-01-2018 01:03 PM
Re: Where to turn?
I 'came out' (so to speak) as someone living with MI ( mental illness) in my town. Of course there were many who whispered behind my back. But they were the town gossips and I never had any time for them or their sort. So I didn't worry. In fact, I found the whole experience to be beneficial. The amount of people who have come up to me and told me about their MI struggles or a family members struggles was huge.
Think about the statistics of 1 in 4 people developing a MI. That's one person of everyone you meet in your town. So you are far from alone in dealing with this.
I hear you when you talk about suicide. I have been there. Last year was a really tough one for me and the suicidal thoughts were strong. But I reached out and got help.
I spoke to my psychologist and told him my thoughts and my plans. He saved me. I don't have any suicidal thoughts now.
So you say there is nothing to try but suicide. But you haven't tried therapy or medication.
If your car engine was running rough, you wouldn't just dump your car on the side of the road. And think - well that's it, it's gone.
No. You would take it home and get it fixed.
Your mates might say - why don't you fix it yourself? Be a man and fix it. But the reality is that you don't know how. You are not skilled in mechanics. So you will need to take it to the mechanic to fix. And after he gets his hands on it, and tweaks this and that, yiur car is returned to you as good as new.
Likewise - we are not experts in mental health. That's why we need a therapist to help repair our engine. Get us back on the road.
There is no shame in seeking help from an expert. But it would be a terrible waste if you didn't at least try everything you could before deciding suicide is the only option.
I hope I haven't been too rough with my words. I just really hope that you seek the help you need. There is recovery out there. I hope you find it.
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28-01-2018 01:40 PM
28-01-2018 01:40 PM
Re: Where to turn?
Your words are kind I wish I knew people just like you. I've always been good at giving advice but always been afraid of receiving. I do have lots to live for but the drive just isn't there but you're words make perfect sense and thanks for taking the time to read my story. I will book in to see a different doctor and I will go from there. I have enjoyed reading the story's on this forum as it showed me I'm not alone and there is a little bit of light at the end of my cold dark tunnel. You sound like you have the tools you need to get through tough times and it sounds to me I need to be guided in the right path. Thanks again
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28-01-2018 02:11 PM
28-01-2018 02:11 PM
Re: Where to turn?
There definitely is light on the other side. Unfortunately depression robs us of our ability to see or feel it. But once you start getting help, you will have the energy again to live a good life.
All the best.