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09-02-2020 07:28 AM
09-02-2020 07:28 AM
Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
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09-02-2020 07:35 AM
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Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
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09-02-2020 07:45 AM
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Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
Thanks @Maggie @CheerBear and those under the support button.
I had a session with psych on Thurs after an 8wk break. He suggested next session in 4wks but I managed to tell him I wanted it to be 3wks instead although it was really hard to confirm when I had to say it a 2nd time. I wish I'd never met him in the first place .
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09-02-2020 09:44 AM
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Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
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09-02-2020 12:25 PM
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Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
I've been trying to be open about the problem but it seems like he's not used to clients that have this sort of problem. I'm thinking I just need to go into every single detail and lay it all out and see if he at least understands what I'm saying... and then I dunno. It just really hurts, even though it shouldn't even matter.
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09-02-2020 03:49 PM
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Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
It does really hurt and it does matter. These relationships can be so influential (in my experience).
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09-02-2020 09:19 PM
09-02-2020 09:19 PM
Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
I think it's something I'll have to do @CheerBear. I've brought up bits and pieces and thought he'd be able to understand between the gaps... but if he's not familiar with this then I really need to say a lot more.
I keep writing stuff out in preparation but I'll have to say it verbally (because we made a giant mess of the last thing I gave to him in writing).
I'd like to feel more secure in the "relationship" (as gross as that word is) and I think if I know that he knows how I think of him, and it doesn't make him terminate, then maaaaybe it could help? If he knows what it brings up for me when he suggests once-a-month sessions (which is still way better than "whenever you want to book" to be fair) and doesn't find it needy and disgusting... I dunno.
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10-02-2020 04:44 AM
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Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
What you wrote above sounds so clear and so understandable.
For what it's worth, I don't think you're disgusting (and I am pretty confident I wouldn't be alone here), though I get it can feel like you are.
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10-02-2020 12:57 PM
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Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
Yeah I couldn't think of a different word either @CheerBear . There probably isn't one. :face_with_rolling_eyes:
I'd always heard the idea that if one person has a certain experience, then it's likely that a lot of people have had it... So I find it a bit weird that no one's raised it before with my psych. Maybe what's different about me compared to his other clients is the history of when I used to see him... So that's what I'm going to have to talk about with him. He doesn't really remember much of it which could be an advantage or a disadvantage.
It's hard preparing for the discussion, but it's also hard to go about the rest of my life knowing that it's unresolved and unprepared-for. There's so many ways to structure the discussion and I want to pick one that will maximise the chance of a positive outcome... Which means maximising his ability to listen to what I'm saying without getting defensive (being careful about wording to avoid too much blaming, in case I overshoot the standing-up-for-myself mark), and being clear and not leaving out details about events, thoughts, feelings.
I started writing a draft but got too emotional... At work instead of working . 🙁
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10-02-2020 12:58 PM
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