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25-10-2019 08:44 AM
25-10-2019 08:44 AM
Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
Ultra tricky for you having to ask for another appointment given what you're going through with this.
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25-10-2019 11:05 AM
25-10-2019 11:05 AM
Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
Things with my psych are complicated. I could say that he's been my psych for almost 12 years with a 10 year break in the middle.
I've followed up to ask for an appointment next week and let him know that it will have to be our last session of we can't resolve the issue. I don't expect to hear back from that until early next week. It sucks a whole lot. Maybe for the best.
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25-10-2019 12:13 PM
25-10-2019 12:13 PM
Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
Sounds like a good plan with the email you sent. Very sucky though. I really hope you have a helpful outcome soon
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25-10-2019 01:34 PM
25-10-2019 01:34 PM
Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
Thanks @CheerBear
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29-10-2019 02:41 PM
29-10-2019 02:41 PM
Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
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29-10-2019 03:23 PM
29-10-2019 03:23 PM
Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
It really does sound like time to change your therapist. It was a doctor who suggested I change for no other reason that I was not satisfied. He also said that if I wanted to change every 2 years that was alright. I was really surprised by that and it took a while to sink in, but it was good advice. They are all just human, and if nothing else it gave me sense that my peculiar thoughts, instincts etc mattered. Having a health care team has helped me. We dont have to sit with negative judgmental stuff that therapists do project. We can move on.
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29-10-2019 09:04 PM
29-10-2019 09:04 PM
Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
Thanks for asking @CheerBear . I heard back from him and have an appointment this week. Hearing back definitely helped me calm down. And he finally seems to get that the thing isn't working, and seems ok to change how it happens. So fingers crossed for now.
Thanks for your input @Appleblossom. I really don't know about changing. On one hand all the issues with him have been good practise for resolving miscommunications or expressing my needs, but on the other hand they've also been really stressful and painful when they happen. Then, I feel so attached to him as a psych that the idea of never talking to him again is seriously upsetting. I feel like he is trying to listen and help but I have never been particularly communicative or accepting-of-help-able and that's affecting how things play out... so for now I'm willing to stick in there... I guess until the next rupture *rolling eyes*
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30-10-2019 05:54 AM
30-10-2019 05:54 AM
Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
Hope he responds to what's going on for you in a helpful way when you have your appointment. If you feel up for sharing how it goes, I'm interested in hearing.
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30-10-2019 04:41 PM
30-10-2019 04:41 PM
Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
Thats fine. DO what you feel wnd know is best for you. I have felt like that with my earlier therapists. @TheVorticon I have had to work hard to cultivate my gut instinct.
As long as you feel there is some respect and you are getting somewhere. For the first 20 years I was uber respectful for their time and would never have expected a call back, but these days with email etc, there are different protocols and expectations.
The other side is working through your own transference issues. Attaching to them as significant other is important for processing internal trust and abandonment stuff as well as learning to work within the system in the here and now.
Take Care
Apple
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08-11-2019 06:34 AM
08-11-2019 06:34 AM
Re: Attachment weirdness, neediness, shame
Also wondering how the psych stuff went/is going. I am not wanting to be annoying though.
Thinking of you 😎